Posts Tagged ‘Anger Management’
Communicating in the Tough Times
Effective communication includes the following:
Equal amounts of talking and listening
Paying attention to what others are telling you
Stays on track with your current feeling
Remains open and accepting
Expresses your thoughts honestly, leaving no hidden meanings
Asks for what you want and why
Clarifies for you and the other person exactly what you are feeling.
Those are a few of the basic ground rules for successful communication. We will discuss more tips for successful communication in our upcoming blogs.
Anger Evaluation for Teens
Now offering anger evaluations for teens. Visit www.angerevaluation.com
Anger Management Online Support Group
We are looking for people who would like a safe place to discuss anger with others who are also looking for positive solutions for anger. We are offering this as a service of angermanagementonline.com. Come and join, invite your family and friends. We would like to add some live discussion groups if your interest is there. We look forward to seeing you online. Come to angermanagementonline.com and join us.
Is Life Beating You Up?
It is easy to believe that we have no control over our lives. Life either treats us good or bad and we have no control over what happens. “It’s not fair!” “Life sucks!” “Poor me.” “Why did that happen to me?”
Maybe the bigger question should be…. How am I treating “my” life? For some reason we all think that life is just supposed to treat us with respect and that we have no obligation in determining how our life flows.
I challenge you to monitor your self- talk for a day or two and I bet you will hear complaints and grievances against life. Maybe you will find that your self-talk is actually talking you into holding on to the unfair things that have happened in the past with no real solutions to move beyond the negativity.
Let’s switch that self talk around to understanding that everyone has been wronged at some point in life. We have all been unjustly treated. When we hold onto the “bad” we are trying to make ourselves “right” rather than learning, growing and moving on. Holding onto the bad is demeaning to ourselves and serves no purpose in moving forward in life.
Choose to believe that life is precious. There is no one living who hasn’t been challenged in one way or another. Instead of harboring and holding onto the “unfairness” of life let’s turn that around and ask ourselves what we can learn from the experience. Where do I go from here? How do I move on from this? The answers are within you and there are plenty of solutions waiting for you to try…. but you have to let go of the negative and switch over to the positive side of life.
Life will go on and you will keep flowing through life. You have a choice. Enjoy life living in solutions or let life take you on a path of listening to your negative thoughts. When you choose a life of solutions you choose to treat your life with respect. So when someone asks you, “How is life treating you?” You can answer, “I am treating my life with respect and living in solutions.” I bet they haven’t heard that one before!
Question of the Week: How do I know if I have an anger problem?
I get this question a lot when someone thinks they may have an issue with anger. If you are asking the question, my first thought is there is probably something going on in your life that is making you question yourself and your behavior.
A few quick questions to ask yourself:
Are others in your life telling you that you have a problem with anger?
Are co-workers asking you to look into your behavior?
Do you feel okay about the way you represent yourself in the world?
Do you think there are better ways to handle your emotions, but you aren’t sure where to begin?
These are just a few of the many questions you can ask yourself to better understand if you need help managing your anger.
Anger management is really about so many things. People are often surprised when they take my anger management class and they realize that anger management is more than just learning new behaviors.
Because anger is a secondary emotion we know that something is usually happening first to trigger the anger. That is the key component in anger management. What is happening first to create the secondary emotion of anger?
If you are questioning yourself if you may have a problem with anger then you probably could learn some new ways of looking at your emotions and behavior.
Find an anger management class that you feel comfortable taking. It could be an online class or face-to-face counseling. Which ever learning style is better for you is the right place for you. At angermanagementonline.com we offer several different online classes as well as face-to-face and telephone counseling. We also offer an anger evaluation you can take in your own home.
If you are asking yourself about anger chances are you need help. Reach out and find the help you need so that you can grow in your life and move on in positive solutions.
What happens to your body when you feel angry?
When you experience anger your body goes into a fight or flight response. Chemicals are released into your bloodstream to prime you up for the fight or help you flee the situation. These powerful chemicals cause your body to undergo extreme changes.
Anger is a secondary emotion
Emotions are a funny thing. We all walk around with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Emotions can ride at the surface and we easily recognize them or they can remain hidden and we might not even know how they are affecting our lives.
Anger is an emotion with a wide variety of intensity. The physical effects of anger include rapid heartbeat, elevated blood pressure and increases in adrenalin.
Since anger is a secondary emotion something is usually happening first to make us feel uncomfortable. I am asked over and over how to recognize anger and I have put together a few simple exercises below that you can use to
Your Negative Thoughts
